Recently, I have upped my podcast listening game. So I can make better use of my time during long commutes and expand my knowledge. 2 in 1. If you are already in the podcast game then you are familiar with “This American Life.” If not, start with this one. In short, it discusses everyday life occurrences but with a theme that provokes deeper thoughts. One of the most recent episodes I listened to was titled, Birds & Bees.
Getting the conversation going
This episode was not just about sex, but about upbringing, culture, and preconceived notions. During a break it is brought to the audience’s attention that the 3 most common things people avoid talking about are as follows: Death, Sex, and Money. However, conveniently enough there is a separate podcast titled exactly that and covers those topics.
I immediately go into the notes section on my phone and type in Death, Sex, and Money so I can remember to check it out later.
Death is personal
Exactly a week later my uncle died. My uncle had bladder cancer, but it no way did the thought of him dying ever cross my mind. The day before, I received an extremely uncomfortable phone call from my dad. And 24 hours later I found myself in Atlanta in a hospital room with 14 other family members holding my uncle’s unresponsive hand.
I watched his heart stop beating and his skin become this grey ash-like color. I saw life leaving his body.
I’ve had 6 days to process this. I am still processing. But I do know that talking about it helps aid in processing this uncomfortable unknown part of life, known as death.
There are a ridiculous amount of preconceived notions of death. I have fallen prey to many of them. I orginally thought if I open this up to the world then in someway I am being disrespectful to my uncle and my family. Yet, there’s nothing that supports that thought process.
Take home points
I am not an expert on death. I do not get it. But I do know we all, as humans, experience it on some level at some point in our lives. And if we continue to avoid acknowledging it and discussing it then it will remain uncomfortable. Why ignore the elephant in the room? It just doesn’t make sense.
So let’s talk about the hard stuff. Ignoring it or pushing it under the rug will not make it cease to exist. Whether it is death, sex, or money, it’s part of life and being human. So let’s attempt figure it out together and help raise each other without supporting its existence of being taboo or hush hush.
What things do you want to get out in the open more and have real conversations about?
There’s no better time than now,