The Back Story
I half heartedly joined a book club a few years ago. Not because I didn’t want to be in a book club, because honestly it’s always been a dream of mine. But because I already had my plate full. Yes, a dream. Growing up, I always had a book light so I could read in the dark in car. My favorite thing was my “snake” light that wrapped around my day bed so I could read in bed when I was supposed to be sleeping. Reading has always brought me joy. Luckily, this book club introduced me to Brené Brown and her book “Daring Greatly.”
Honestly, I did not read it until months after the book club read it, but if it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t have ordered the book and allowed it to stare at me before finally giving in.
Brené Brown is an incredibly insightful, smart, human being, however what makes her so great is that she is able to collectively define and quantify things we all talk about and organize them in a very simple way.
Lately, I’ve realized it’s not about complexity it is really about simplicity. Read my post Advice to Myself for more details!
Luckily, my friend heard that Brené Brown was speaking at USC and we signed up right away. I forgot that going to a live talk is just like going to a concert. You have a group of people coming together who share similiar beliefs and goals who are more than excited to be in the presence of an individual.
Has anyone watched, “Inside the Actors Studio” with James Lipton? I used to be obsessed! Anyways, that what this set up felt like; intimate with your closest 1,000 friends. A professor from the new school for Performance Science school highlighted high achieving students and I couldn’t help but feel inspired. And yes, performance science…. mind blowing in itself that is exists! In brief, it’s not only studying the body, but our mind and what happens during trauma, sports events, or even confrontation, but then being able to apply and use those findings to our benefit.
Finally, Brené is introduced and you can feel the energy of excitement.
Brené has a lightness about her. You can’t help but want to be in her presence.
We can hear the same thing said over and over again and it might not mean anything until the 5,000 time because context matters. Who said it. The time. The place. Your mental state. Your previous experiences. The list goes on and on. And sometimes we just need to hear things again to give us a nudge. I had this happen last night and I want to share my take aways.
Brené has researched and written her books on vulnerability, courage, belonging, and resilience. Listen to her Ted Talk here.
Brené is from Houston, Texas and she was asked about Hurricane Harvey. She was involved with the relief efforts and told a heart warming, yet funny story about reaching out on Facebook for underwear and received and overwhelming amount.
She talked about the beautifulness of people coming together to help one another. And no one was asking, “Who did you vote for” before they lent a hand.
This is when she said, “People are hard to hate close up; we need to move in.”
An attendee asked, “How do i get my family to understand the concepts we’ve discussed tonight? It’s not like I can make them read your book.”
This is when she said, “The most powerful way to change the people around you is to show up in a different way. “
We quickly touched on the subject of vulnerability. And I really encourage you to read her books to fully grasp this concept. But this particularly came up when discussing the risks, benefits, and costs of being vulnerable.
This is when she said, ” How many of you were raised to be courageous? (majority of the room raises hands) and how many of your were raised to be vulnerable? (almost no one raised hands) and then says well you can’t have one without the other. “
Vulnerability = Uncertainty + Risk + Emotional Exposure and all require courage!
Taking time to examine yourself will not only benefit you, but everyone else in your life. You can dive in deeper with my post Is Self Worth a Real Thing?
I’ll leave you with a very simple Brené Brown quote, ” True belonging is belonging to yourself.”
What steps can you take to be vulnerable and truly belong to yourself?
There’s No Better Time Than Now,